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    kelvin tattoo

    • Mom Johanna Giselhall Sandstrom asked a tattoo artist to ink the names of her children, Nova and Kevin, on her arm.
    • Unfortunately, she didn’t think to double-check the spelling of their names until it was too late.
    • Faced with few options, Sandstrom came up with a clever fix for her problem.

    Regrets are a fact of life, and sometimes, it’s hard to forget what we woulda, coulda, shoulda done differently.

    Especially when said regret is a misspelled tattoo.

    When mom Johanna Giselhall Sandstrom of Kyrkhult, Sweden, noticed her new tattoo contained a particularly problematic misspelling, she came up with an interesting solution to the problem, People reported.

    Sandstrom had asked a tattoo artist to ink the names of her children, Nova and Kevin, on her arm. However, she didn’t notice his dreadful mistake until it was too late: The artist had mistakenly spelled Kevin as "Kelvin."

    "My heart stopped and I thought I was going to faint," Sandstrom told local newspaper Blekinge Lans Tidning, as translated by People. "The artist drew the design and didn’t ask anything about the spelling, so I didn’t give it any more thought."

    Sandstrom seemingly had two choices: Undergo painful and expensive laser surgery to remove the tattoo, or deal with the unfortunate misprint forever.

    Surprisingly, she decided to go another way, choosing to legally change her young son’s name to Kelvin and erase the mishap entirely.

    "I had never heard the name ‘Kelvin’ before. There isn’t anyone who names their kid Kelvin," Sandstrom told Blekinge Lans Tidning. "So when I thought more about it, I realized that no one else has this name. It became unique. Now we think it is better than Kevin."

    It’s certainly a clever fix for the dilemma, wouldn’t you agree?

    Despite what could have been a catastrophe, Sandstrom said she still plans to have her newborn daughter’s name tattooed. Here’s hoping she double-checks the stencil first.

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    Michael Rotondo

    • Mike Rotondo's parents tried to evict their son after eight years of living under the same roof in upstate New York.
    • Rotondo argued that he should be allowed up to six months to leave, but a judge has ordered him to vacate.
    • His parents first talked about kicking him out in October, stopped feeding him in November, and sent him a note about potential legal action in February.
    • Rotondo believes his parents' actions are retaliatory because he lost visitation rights to his child. 

    A millennial man is trying to delay an eviction from his parents' house, even though he doesn't talk to them.

    Mark and Christina Rotondo have asked their son to leave their house in Camillus, New York, and have taken legal action to evict him. Michael Rotondo, 30, has lived with his parents for the past eight years and been described as a "liberal millennial."

    Syracuse.com reported on Tuesday that State Supreme Court Justice Donald Greenwood ordered Rotondo to vacate his parents' house sooner, though no timeline has been specified in court. The judge also ordered an investigation by adult protective services.

    Rotondo received a letter from his parents on February 2 that said: "We have decided you must leave this house immediately. You have 14 days to vacate."

    Rotondo told Business Insider that the letter was "nonsense" and "a retaliatory action" for losing visitation custody of his child two days earlier. Rotondo said he stopped talking to his parents when he received the letter.

    "I wouldn't characterize them as being very good parents," Rotondo said on a phone call.

    Rotondo told Business Insider that he hasn't had the financial means to move out because he has been focusing on his child.

    "I've been a father for the last few years. That's what I've been doing. I really haven't pursued a career," he said. "That's why I'm living with my parents still."

    Rotondo's child has never lived with him. His relationship with his child's mother "used to be really, really good where we would exchange gifts and have each other over for holidays and then it went real bad, real fast."

    "I was an excellent father," Rotondo said. "I would forgo buying clothes for myself so that I could take [my child] skiing." He then said that "I had an issue with [the child's mother] and in a similar way, I lost all my visitation."

    Rotondo contested that he was not given enough time to leave his parents' house. " I was expecting to have the ability to leave my parents' house from six months from that February 2nd notice," he said.

    "I went to court for, and made the case, that I needed to be provided a six-month notice," Rotondo continued. "I didn't want to be there anymore. I didn't want to be there in the long [term]."

    The parents' second letter to their son was dated February 13 and said that "a legal enforcement procedure will be instituted immediately if you do not leave by March 15, 2018." The third letter came with an offer of $1,100 and advice on how to move out. The fourth letter reminded Rotondo that he had 11 days before legal action was taken and "so far we have seen no indication that you are preparing to leave."

    Mike said his parents started threatening to throw him out of their house in October, adding "I don't like living with my parents."

    Rotondo said he's getting the impression people think he brought the case to court because he wants to keep living with his parents indefinitely, but that isn't the case. "I was trying to get more time," he said. He did not want it to "seem as though that the notice I was provided on February 2 initiated or considered to be a six-month notice."

    According to Rotondo, his parents stopped feeding him in November 2017. The Daily Mail reported that Rotondo had a case thrown out in family court last November. "My mother had cut off my health insurance before she was required to," saying he has not had health insurance for the past five years.

    The Daily Mail also reported that Rotondo filed a discrimination lawsuit against Best Buy in 2017 because he was fired for being unable to work on Sundays because of his court visitation schedule. Rotondo declined to comment on any of his previous employment history to Business Insider.

    SEE ALSO: 12 adults reveal what their parents still pay for

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    Michael Avenatti

    • Michael Avenatti, the attorney for adult-film actress Stormy Daniels, alleged that lawyer Michael Cohen, or someone connected to him, is selectively leaking audio tapes.
    • Avenatti alleged the leaks were of material obtained by the FBI in raids of Cohen's home, office, and hotel, in an effort to make Daniels look bad.


    Adult-film star Stormy Daniels' attorney, Michael Avenatti, alleged in a Tuesday court filing that President Donald Trump's longtime lawyer Michael Cohen or members of his legal team are selectively leaking audio tapes to the media of material seized in FBI raids of Cohen's home, office, and hotel.

    "We further have reason to believe that the recordings may relate to our client, Ms. Stephanie Clifford," Avenatti wrote, using Daniels' real name. "We think that these select leaks are meant to paint a false narrative relating to Mr. Cohen and his business dealings at the same time he is not disclosing numerous other recordings of him speaking with individuals such as Mr. Trump."

    It was not immediately clear to what exactly Avenatti was referring. The attorney did not point to any specific media reports, and none appeared to be based off of such leaks as of Tuesday afternoon. He did not immediately respond to a request for comment.

    Cohen's attorney did not immediately respond to a request for comment from Business Insider.

    In the court filing, Avenatti asked US District Judge Kimba Wood to ask Cohen's lawyers about the leaks during an upcoming Thursday hearing. 

    At the moment, Avenatti is seeking to be admitted into Cohen's case, which is being held in the Southern District of New York. Trump's longtime attorney is under criminal investigation for possible campaign-finance violations and bank fraud.

    Michael Cohen and Stormy DanielsMeanwhile, Daniels is suing Cohen and Trump, seeking to get out of a non-disclosure agreement Cohen facilitated just prior to the 2016 presidential election. She was paid $130,000 for her silence. Trump recently admitted, via his financial disclosure, that he reimbursed Cohen for making that $130,000 payment to Daniels.

    In a Friday court filing, Cohen's lawyers argued at length why Avenatti shouldn't be allowed to appear in the case. The lawyers wrote that Avenatti had created a "carnival atmosphere" and should not be allowed into the New York court.

    Avenatti focused on "smearing" Cohen in an effort "to further his own interest in garnering as much media attention as possible," Cohen's attorneys wrote.

    Avenatti called those arguments "without merit and frivolous" and said it "speaks volumes that they so desperately" want him excluded from the case. On Monday, the US attorneys office for the Southern District of New York declined to oppose Avenatti's motion to appear before the court.

    At the moment, a special master is overseeing a document review of the items obtained by the government in the raids to determine what does and does not fall under attorney-client privilege.

    "Such leaks would plainly call into question the seriousness of Mr. Cohen's arguments opposing my pro hac vice motion," Avenatti wrote Tuesday. "They may also directly interfere with the privilege review being conducted by the Special Master. Further, if the materials publicly disclosed relate to our client, the disclosures would also have relevance to our motion to intervene."

    SEE ALSO: Michael Cohen may have just gotten a huge setback in his attempt to block Michael Avenatti from appearing in his criminal case

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    Amazon

    • Amazon, Best Buy, Home Depot, Victoria's Secret, and other companies are tracking shoppers' returns dating back several years.
    • Many shoppers are unaware their returns are being tracked, and only find out after they are banned from making additional returns.
    • Amazon conducts this process internally, whereas companies like Best Buy and Home Depot outsource the process to Appriss Retail, formerly known as The Retail Equation.
    • Behaviors that raise flags include too many returns and returns without receipts.


    Amazon, Best Buy, Home Depot, and many other retailers are discreetly tracking shoppers' returns and in some cases punishing people who are suspected of abusing their return policies.

    Most of these companies are using an algorithm to mine their sales data, build a database of customers' returns, and flag potentially problematic shoppers.

    Amazon conducts this process internally, whereas companies like Best Buy and Home Depot outsource the work to Appriss Retail, formerly known as The Retail Equation.

    Behaviors that raise flags include too many returns, returns without receipts, and a high frequency of returns within a certain time period, according to Appriss Retail. If a pattern of behavior is deemed fraudulent by the company's algorithm, then shoppers could get banned from making additional returns. 

    Here's how The Retail Equation tracks returns:

    "When a consumer wants to make a return, a retailer will scan the original sales transaction receipt and/or swipe the individual's driver's license or government-issued ID card (including passports) to make an identification of the person and his/her unique return behavior," The Retail Equation says on its website. "As customers return merchandise, both from in-store and online purchases, the system compares variables such as return frequency, dollar amounts, and/or time against a set of prescribed rules that form that particular retailer's return policy."

    The company says that 99% of returns are accepted by its system, which relies on "objective, verifiable data to determine whether a return is valid rather than relying on subjective observations and guesswork by sales clerks."

    Many customers don't know that their returns are being tracked. 

    Shoppers can contact The Retail Equation to obtain their so-called return activity reports. Some reports date back many years. One report obtained last year revealed returns dating back to 2011, a customer said on Yelp. Another, pulled by a customer in 2013, turned up returns dating back to 2004, according to the Associated Press.

    SEE ALSO: Amazon isn't alone in punishing shoppers for too many returns — these are all the companies that track your returns

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    Dolores and Teddy Westworld season two

    Warning: Spoilers ahead for "Westworld" season two.

    Who did Ford have Bernard print onto a control unit? What is the "weapon" William showed Dolores? Who was Dolores speaking to in the second season's opening scene?

    From the best posts on the "Westworld" subreddit community to popular YouTube videos, we're here to bring you all the biggest fan theories about what's in store on the second season of HBO's hit series.

    Keep reading for a look at nine major "Westworld" fan theories you should know.

    The Bernard we saw wake up on the beach is being manipulated by the Delos team in a looped narrative.

    There's something off with Bernard in the "two week later" time frame we're seeing this season. He's disoriented, but was able to finish Karl Strand's sentence and saw different versions of the hosts being executed on the beach

    Many on the /r/westworld community, as well as YouTuber HaxDogma, have speculated that the Delos team knows Bernard is a host and they're putting him through a looped narrative in order to make him reveal what happened. 

    Now that we know "The Cradle" is a simulation technology, it's possible the version of Bernard we saw wake up on the beach is really just undergoing a simulation so the Delos team can extract information from him.



    The secret Delos experiment is making human-host clones of important guests who have visited the park.

    As Bernard witnessed in the secret lab Charlotte brought him to on the first episode this season, Delos has been logging video footage of guests' experiences along with their DNA. Then we saw a second hidden lab on the fourth episode, where the host-human hybrid of James Delos was being kept. 

    The Host-James was a failed experiment, but what if Charlotte and Delos were able to crack the coding? Are they trying to create more host-human hybrids of other important people? Or are the guest logs being used to blackmail powerful people in society who visit the park and indulge? 



    Dolores made a new Arnold host, and that's who she was talking to during the very first scene of this season.

    The very first scene of this season is a big mystery. It's shown in a different aspect ratio than the rest of the episode, and at first it appears to be a flashback of Arnold talking to Dolores.

    But if you rewatch the scene, it can be interpreted as current, fully conscious Dolores waking up a host-version of Arnold and questioning him. 

    The clothes and mannerisms match with what we've seen of Arnold in the past, but so far it's a a toss-up for who the person is sitting across from Dolores. 



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    handwriting 4x3

    • Your handwriting says a lot about your personality.
    • For example, if you write large letters, it could mean you are people oriented, whereas small letters could mean you are introverted. 
    • Business Insider spoke to master graphologist, Kathi McKnight, who analyzes handwriting for personality traits, to figure out what these details in your handwriting mean. 

    Your handwriting reveals much more than you might imagine.

    There's a whole science behind analyzing handwriting for personality traits called graphology, which has been around since the days of Aristotle. Today, it's used for a variety of purposes, from criminal investigations to understanding your health. Someemployers even use handwriting analysis to screen potential employees for compatibility.

    Business Insider talked to master graphologistKathi McKnight about what the seemingly insignificant details in your writing say about you. "Just from analyzing your handwriting, experts can find over 5,000 personality traits," she says. 

    McKnight readily admits that the information she provides below is a basic overview, so it won't apply to everyone in every situation. Yet these factors can show you aspects about yourself that you may not have considered before. 

    Try writing out a sentence. We suggest: "The quick brown fox jumps over the lazy dog." Then, keep reading to see what your handwriting says about you.

    Size of letters and words



    Slant



    Pressure



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    Harvesting Wheat Field Aerial

    Some of the best photos offer a unique view on a subject that would otherwise seem ordinary.

    These can be photos that were taken at just the right time, photos that create optical illusions, or photos that were captured by drones.

    We decided to delve into the world of aerial photos and found 21 captivating shots that were not only taken from above, but that are also perfectly symmetrical.

    The following pictures will please photography lovers and perfectionists alike.

    Students at a nursing vocational college in China take an open-air exam on a sports track.

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    This farmer is using his tractor to make bales of hay after a wheat harvest.



    It might not seem like it from above, but these perfect geometric shapes are actually clarifying tanks at a sewage farm.

    The sewage farm is located in North London.



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    Watchmen movie going to hbo

    • Damon Lindelof revealed the first details about the plot of HBO's "Watchmen" TV series in a letter to fans on Tuesday.
    • Lindelof said that the series will be an original "contemporary" story with "unknown" characters.
    • He implied it will be set in a post-Trump world.
    • "Watchmen" is one of the most acclaimed graphic novels of all time. It was originally adapted as a film directed by Zack Snyder.

     

    Damon Lindelof revealed the first details about his upcoming "Watchmen" HBO TV series on Tuesday, and said it will be an original story with "unknown" characters.

    "Watchmen" is a 1986 limited comic book series that has since been collected into a graphic novel. It follows a group of masked antiheroes in the aftermath of one of them being murdered, and how their presence changes the course of history — including the outcome of the Vietnam War. It is one of the most acclaimed graphic novels of all time and is considered by many, including its writer Alan Moore, to be unfilmable. 

    Lindelof, who co-created "Lost" and HBO's "The Leftovers," is aware of the pressure, and acknowledged fan expectations in a five-page letter he posted to Instagram on Tuesday. But he also revealed key details about the plot of his HBO series, or as he called it: "the only part that really matters."

    Lindelof said he had "no desire to 'adapt'" the novel and that the 12 issues that comprise it will not be "retread nor recreated nor reproduced nor rebooted." Instead, it will be an original story that "must ask new questions and explore the world through a fresh lens. Most importantly, it must be contemporary."

    Lindelof went on to imply that the series will be set in a post-Trump world in the same way that the novel was "specific to the Eighties of Reagan and Thatcher and Gorbachev." He also said that the events of the novel are still canon in the world of the TV series.

    "When the New Testament came along, it did not erase what came before," Lindelof wrote, comparing the novel to the Old Testament.

    New characters will also be introduced, according to Lindelof, which makes sense if the series does take place over 30 years after the novel. 

    "Some of the characters will be unknown," he wrote. "New faces. New masks to cover them."

    "Watchmen" was previously adapted as a film directed by Zack Snyder in 2009, which was more of a direct adaptation of the novel with very few story deviations. It received subpar reviews, and has a 64% on Rotten Tomatoes.

    No release date or casting information has been revealed for the HBO series, but if Lindelof's letter is any indication, it will very different from the film (and the novel). 

    Read Lindelof's entire letter below:

    Day 140.

    A post shared by Damon (@damonlindelof) on May 22, 2018 at 11:00am PDT on

     

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    Aaron Rodgers

    • The Green Bay Packers' decision to cut wide receiver Jordy Nelson was one of the more surprising moves of the NFL offseason.
    • Aaron Rodgers expressed his surprise and disappointment with the move and was reportedly generally upset with the Packers for not consulting him on several team decisions.
    • In the months since, Rodgers has brought up Nelson's release several times, a hint that it still bothers him.


    The Green Bay Packers made one of the more surprising moves of the NFL offseason when they released veteran wide receiver Jordy Nelson.

    Nelson had spent ten years with the Packers, posting four 1,000-plus yard seasons and three seasons with double-digit touchdowns. However, after a mediocre season in 2017, the Packers decided to move on, hoping to get younger and faster at the position.

    The decision has not seemed to sit well with Rodgers. When the Packers cut Nelson, Rodgers posted an emotional farewell.

    Nelson eventually signed with the Oakland Raiders.

    After Nelson was cut, Rodgers told Milwaukee radio station 102.9 The Hog that the Packers made it "pretty clear" that players don't get a say in personnel decisions. Rodgers also may have been referring to the Packers' decision to fire quarterback coach Alex Van Pelt earlier in the offseason, something he had expressed frustration over not being consulted about during the offseason.

    Yahoo reported in April that sources close to Rodgers said he was frustrated by some of the Packers' decisions in the offseason.

    With OTAs now underway, the sting of losing his go-to receiver doesn't seem to have subsided for Rodgers.

    On Tuesday, Rodgers was asked about rumors that the Packers could sign wide receiver Dez Bryant, who was cut by the Dallas Cowboys in the offseason. Rodgers said the Packers made it clear that they don't want older receivers, once again mentioning Nelson.

    "We like young receivers, so I'm assuming that’s the way they are going to keep going," Rodgers said (via Zach Heilprin of The Zone). "I don't know why you'd cut Jordy and bring in Dez.

    "But, he's a talented player. He's going to end up somewhere. If he ends up here, we'll obviously welcome him with open arms and get him up to speed as quick as possible."

    While speaking at the Wisconsin High School Sports Awards in May, Rodgers talked about what fuels him to continue playing. He said he would like to be so good into his 40s that the Packers can't move on, noting that doesn't always happen for other players like Nelson, among others.

    "As you've seen here recently with Jordy, but even you go back a few years, whether it's Julius Peppers or A.J. Hawk or John Kuhn or Brett Favre," Rodgers said, "the fairytale ending of starting a career and ending it with the same organization rarely happens."

    If nothing else, it showed Rodgers didn't necessarily see Nelson's release coming and that he doesn't want to suffer the same fate.

    The Packers drafted three wide receivers this year and signed tight end Jimmy Graham in free agency. It's clear they'll have some work to do to make up for Nelson's absence in Rodgers' mind.

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    john cornyn chuck schumer

    • A bipartisan group of senators — 14 Republicans, 12 Democrats, and a Democrat-leaning independent — sent a letter to top Trump officials about current trade negotiations with China.
    • The bipartisan group warned against granting China's request for the US to loosen export controls on key technologies.
    • "Any such move would bolster China’s aggressive military modernization and significantly undermine long-term US national security interests," the letter read.

    A bipartisan group of 27 senators sent a letter to Trump administration officials on Tuesday urging caution in trade negotiations with China.

    The group — which including a wide array of members from the second-highest ranking Republican, Sen. John Cornyn, to Senate Minority Leader Chuck Schumer — warned Treasury Secretary Steven Mnuchin, Commerce Secretary Wilbur Ross, and US Trade Representative Robert Lighthizer that any concession to China should not pose a risk to US security.

    As part of the negotiations, China asked for a loosening of export control rules that prohibit the sale of potentially sensitive US technology to the country. The senators said this could undermine US safety if China is able to use the technology to develop military capabilities.

    "Therefore, we strongly urge you to reject any proposal by China to loosen existing restrictions on the export or other transfer of these sensitive US technologies," the letter read. "Any such move would bolster China’s aggressive military modernization and significantly undermine long-term US national security interests."

    The members also cited Trump's own National Security Strategy, which warned that China is attempting to develop military technologies that would be capable of challenging the US on the world stage.

    "There can be no question that China seeks to surpass the US both economically and militarily and become the world’s foremost superpower, and neither the Federal Government nor private US companies should aid and abet that effort," the letter read.

    Mnuchin told a Senate panel on Tuesday that a loosening of export controls was not on the table.

    "Export control items are absolutely not on the table for discussions, we would in no way look to loosen that," Mnuchin said.

    In addition to the concerns over export controls, the bipartisan group urged Trump officials to not back down on sanctions against Chinese telecom giant ZTE.

    The Commerce Department recently block the company from obtaining US parts as a result of ZTE's sale of goods into Iran and North Korea. Reports on Tuesday indicated that the administration was nearing a deal to modify the punishment.

    Senators from both sides of the aisle warned that ZTE — which is part owned by the Chinese government— poses a national security risk, a fact agreed upon by many security officials.

    "This is particularly critical when the violators are state-owned and -influenced, part and parcel of China's policies and practices designed to strengthen its own national security innovation base, and essential tools of efforts to spread China's influence in other countries that pose national security threats to the United States," the letter read.

    Trade talks between the Trump administration and the Chinese government are ongoing. A preliminary agreement reached Saturday contained few details, but Ross is expected to head to China in June to hash out a more complete agreement.

    SEE ALSO: Trump says he's not 'not satisfied' with China trade negotiations after Democrats, Republicans slam new deal

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    cherry street san francisco housing market

     

    Tucked into the bottom corner of a 110-year-old Victorian house in San Francisco is a 385-square foot apartment that has one bathroom and no bedroom. It's selling for almost $500,000.

    It's nestled in San Francisco's tony Presidio Heights neighborhood, where the median home price is almost $5 million according to Redfin. So consider this half-a-million-dollar chateau a steal.

    The home is being marketed as the perfect pied-à-terre, a French phrase to describe an abode that's for occasional use. And given its tight footprint, unless you've got a thing for very small spaces, the home seems best suited for popping in periodically to lay your head.

    Take a look inside the studio:

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    The one-story unit at 333B Cherry St. is one of three in the Victorian house. It sits about three minutes away from the opulent homes in the gated loopty-loop of Presidio Terrace.



    It was built in 1908 but has been renovated in recent years.



    The property is 385 square feet and includes a kitchen and a bathroom.



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    • A "sex menu" is a list of one's sexual preferences, including likes, dislikes, and things to try. 
    • Relationship experts say that it can have a positive impact on your sex life and overall relationship.
    • I tried implementing a sex menu into my relationship, and it didn't have the desired results. 


    Does your sex life need a boost? If so, you might want to try out something called a sex menu. Or, at least, that's what I did.

    To clarify, my sex life is — and was — perfectly fine. But I am a fledgling sex journalist. So, when my editor sent me a link to an article about something called a "sex menu" and asked if I wanted to try it, I jumped on the opportunity. 

    And that is how I found myself, late on a Sunday night, emailing Google spreadsheet titled "S*x Menu" to the guy I am seeing.

    A sex menu is a way to rank your preference with sex and open up a conversation with your partner.

    A sex menu works like this: You think about your past sexual experiences and consider what you liked and did not like about your sexual experiences. Then, you put all the things you like in one column that serves, if you will, as the main course.

    The stuff you don't like goes in another column, which is...poison? Food you are allergic to? Food you don't particularly love, but will eat on special occasions when you know it is important to the person serving it to you? It's up to you.

    In keeping with this specific food-based analogy, this menu also has dessert; all the sexual things you may not have tried, but would like to do — or would at least consider doing — one day.

    And that is quite literally all you have to do to create your sex menu. It can be as detailed or as vague as you like. You can also use any medium you prefer to create it, whether it's an Excel document, a Google spreadsheet, pen and paper, or, perhaps, a printed-out mock-up of a real menu. Again — it's up to you.

    looking at menu

    My partner didn't know what to make of my menu, which made things difficult.

    The main flaw with this experiment was most likely a personal problem — I deeply loathe anything that feels kitschy or cutesy, particularly when it pertains to sex. To me, discussing the things that you'd like to do during sex as "putting them on the menu" or "serving them up" is about as nauseating as it gets. 

    All the same, I made a list and sent it over to the person I have been seeing for about six months, who did not know what to make of the whole thing.

    "Why did you call it a s*x menu?" he asked me.

    "I don't know," I said. "That's not the point."

    "I'm confused," he said. 

    I, too, was confused. We did not have sex that night.

    It's not that the menu presented any problems in the relationship, per se — I didn't feel awkward about discussing it at all, as I sort of expected I might. It's just that the conversation didn't feel all that productive. I already know what I like and don't like in my sex life and, at the risk of revealing too much about my business, it's all working very well for me. 

    This is likely due in large part to the fact that, again, I've been dating this person for about six months. If the relationship was in its earlier stages or something more long-term, I might have gotten more out of it. So, while I appreciate the idea of a sex menu in theory, in reality, I think that I am more comfortable sticking to a straight-up discussion. 

    Sex menus can be beneficial for many relationships — just not mine.

    This is not to say, however, that no one should try a sex menu. When I asked Dr. Jane Greer, a New York-based marriage and sex therapist and author of "What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship," what she thought about the concept of a sex menu, she was in favor of it.

    "This is a creative idea," Greer said. "It's a way to let your partner know what you're interested in doing, and then they can see if it suits their taste without rejecting it outright. Without discussing these needs, it leaves the door open to disappointment and feelings of frustration. You have to go on record with what you like and dislike so that your needs can be factored into the equation."

    It seems to me, at least, that the sex menu practice is probably best suited for people who are just starting to have sex with a new partner and want to lay down preferences in a low-drama way, particularly if either party has any past trauma that makes certain sex acts truly out of the question. It's also ideal for couples who have been together for a long time and have forgotten what made sex enjoyable when they first started dating.

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    I'm still into the overall idea of using a sex menu. It can be difficult to think critically about the sexual experiences you are having, let alone discuss them with the person you're sleeping with. But simply taking the time to ask yourself what you actually want out of sex is something that more people should probably be doing. 

    If you don't want to go the sex menu route, Greer recommended telling your partner about something that you've read or heard about and asking if they'd consider trying it. "If they don't know, then ask if you can try it and find out whether they like it or not," she told INSIDER.

    And, if thinking of your sexual pre fences in a menu format does make it easier for you to discuss — or, ahem, more appetizing for you— more power to you.

    In any case, it can hardly be a bad idea for more people to start actively considering what makes sex great or not-so-great for them. This particular sex menu method just wasn't exactly the right thing for me.

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    During her 66 years on the throne, Queen Elizabeth has met plenty of famous people. She's probably used to shaking hands with Hollywood stars by now, but even the most talented performers can barely contain their excitement upon meeting the world's longest-reigning monarch.

    Here are 14 photos of celebrities meeting the queen that show how even stars can get starstruck in the presence of royalty.

    Queen Elizabeth has met many famous people throughout her 66-year reign, like Frank Sinatra in 1958.

    Singer and actor Frank Sinatra is presented to Queen Elizabeth in the foyer of the Odeon Theater in London at premiere of the Danny Kaye film, "Me and the Colonel," on October 30, 1958. At Sinatra's left is French actress Nicole Maurey.



    Barbra Streisand made her acquaintance at the Royal Film performance in 1975.

    American actress Barbra Streisand, left, shakes hands with Queen Elizabeth in London in 1975 at the Royal Film performance. After the presentations the queen saw the musical "Funny Lady" in which Streisand is the star.



    Angelina Jolie was visibly moved when the queen presented her with an honorary damehood for her work to end sexual violence.

    Actress Angelina Jolie is presented with the Insignia of an Honorary Dame Grand Cross of the Most Distinguished Order of St Michael and St George by Queen Elizabeth in the 1844 Room on October 10, 2014, at Buckingham Palace, London. Jolie received an honorary damehood (DCMG) for services to UK foreign policy and the campaign to end war zone sexual violence.



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    • A teen from Medford, Oregon, used his love of Spider-Man to ask his girlfriend to prom.
    • Adam Hazelton dressed as the Marvel superhero and repelled out of a window to ask his girlfriend  Jenna Mcintosh.
    • She said yes.
    • Pictures from the promposal have gone viral.
    • The couple spoke to INSIDER about their experience.


    As prom season draws to an end, the promposals just keep coming.

    Ahead of her school's dance, Jenna Mcintosh, a 17-year-old senior at North Medford High School in Medford, Oregon, had a feeling her boyfriend Adam Hazelton was going to do something absurd — and she was right. 

    Hazelton, 17,  surprised his girlfriend by dressing up as Spider-Man — a superhero they both love — and repelling out of a window to ask her to prom.

    "I kind of knew something was happening because he's terrible at keeping secrets," Mcintosh told INSIDER. "I was in his house talking to his family when he walked out the room for 20 minutes. Then I get a text asking me to come outside."

    When she saw her boyfriend hanging upside down, Mcintosh burst out laughing at how "extra" the whole situation was. 

    "I didn't see the poster at first because I was too worried about him falling and breaking his neck. When I finally noticed it I told him I'd say yes if he got down from the rope," Mcintosh said.

    Hazelton told us that he was probably suspended midair for about seven minutes while he waited for Mcintosh  — but he didn't mind. As it turns out, the teen is actually an experienced rock climber, so, you know, don't try this at home.

    "I rock climb at a local rock gym and I was just thinking of prom ideas and I was talking to my friend about the upcoming 'Infinity War' movie and inspiration struck," he said.

    But training for the occasion took some time.

    "I began practicing hanging upside down with my climbing gear on," Hazelton said. "I learned how to be safe by using my gear because I knew my mom wouldn't be too thrilled about me hanging out of a two-story window over concrete."

    Unsurprisingly, Mcintosh's tweet has gone viral. People are obsessed with the creative promposal.

    Mcintosh said that this kind of stunt is pretty typical of her boyfriend — and she expects that he'll be up to more antics before they leave for college.

    So after all that, how was prom? Well, Hazelton said it was "super fun."

    "We took prom pictures and then went and watched 'Infinity War' all dressed up," Mcintosh said. "Then we went to dinner and went to the dance."

    Sounds like a dream date for the couple.

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    Following North Korea's overtures of reconciliation beginning in January, the regime has made several diplomatic moves to indicate it is willing to resume talks between the US and neighboring South Korea.

    After sending a delegation of athletes and members of the ruling family to the 2018 Winter Olympics in South Korea, North Korea has made significant strides in thawing relations — though some political observers remain skeptical of the regime's motives.

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    During her trip to South Korea, Kim Yo Jong — North Korean leader Kim Jong Un's sister — delivered a letter to South Korean President Moon Jae-in. The letter indicated a willingness to foster better relations between the Koreas. There was also an invitation to visit Pyongyang, North Korea's capital.



    Kim Yo Jong's trip to South Korea marked the first time since the Korean War that a ruling family member of the North Korean regime visited the country.



    North Korea then sent Kim Yong Chol, the country's vice chairman of the ruling Worker's Party Central Committee and the country's former intelligence chief, to South Korea for the Closing Ceremony at the Winter Olympics. Following Yo Jong's lead, Yong Chol also delivered a bombshell announcement: that North Korea was willing to hold diplomatic talks with the US.

    Source: Yonhap News



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    ProPublica senior reporter Sebastian Rotella, author of "Rip Crew," lays out what popular TV shows and movies like "Narcos" and "Sicario" get right and wrong about Mexican drug cartels. Following is a transcript of the video.

    Sebastian Rotella: I'm Sebastian Rotella. I'm the author of the novel Rip Crew and I'm a senior reporter at Propublica.

    "Sicario" was a, was a good movie, and some of the things it portrayed were very accurate, for example that shootout at the border, if you remember in "Sicario" when they're at the border crossing, stuck in traffic, that has happened, and something that I was very worried about when I was covering the border, because you know that is a sort of a prime vulnerability moment when you're stuck in that traffic at the border.

    There were other things in, for example, in "Sicario" that I thought pushed the envelope, the sort of gratuitous and casual torture taking place on US territory, that in my experience, you know, it happens very rarely, I'm really not aware of it. And that isn't because there aren't particularly Latin American law enforcement and intelligence and military units that work with the US that engage in that kind of activity, but it tends to happen precisely in those countries. You know, the idea that you would bring someone into the US to do that and expose yourself to all kinds of potential prosecution and scandal, that did not ring true, for example. So it really depends.

    I think "Narcos" is quite well-researched. What happens is, and I've done this having written fiction, and having been involved in projects where you move this stuff to the big screen, things have to be simplified, they have to be made dramatic, they have, you lose nuance, and oftentimes, they'll be things that happen in real life that I think would make for good, it would be good on, on a TV show or a movie, but they're harder to portray because oftentimes they happen out of ineptitude.

    Right, I mean the scary thing sometimes about this world is the combination of that, how lethal, but sometimes how inept or how unsophisticated some of these actors are, that factor that is hard to portray in the best series this question of ineptitude of the mix of sophistication and coincidence and sort of human flaws, I think when that is draw out in series, that is when they're at their best, because I think that is very human and that is very real. There is still a sense of the drug lords in Mexico. You know people talk a lot about Chapo Guzman, who was just captured.

    The thing about Chapo Guzman is he was kind of the last of the drug lords of his style, and one of the reasons that Mexico was so violent, and the drug violence and drug corruption has gotten so bad is precisely because the generation of drug lords like Chapo Guzman has kind of died out, and the people who run most of the cartels now, the cartels are adamized and fragmented for one thing. And the other thing is what you have is a phenomenon, is as the drug lords like Chapo Guzman have faded out, the trigger men, the gun men, who pretty much resolve everything through violence have risen.

    So it's not to say that Chapo Guzman and the Arellano-Felix brothers whom I covered in Tijuana years ago and others, weren't violent. They were bloodthirsty and sadistic, but they also had a sense of when to corrupt, rather than kill, when to do packs, when to, how to, how to, how to approach this as a, as a business, as a violent business, but a business, none the less. Whereas the drug cartels like the Zetas, and some of the remnants of other cartels that have risen, the Zetas were former commandos in Mexico actually military men who took over and created their own cartel. Pretty much they resolve everything through violence, so people think about a drug lord sort of sitting on a throne somewhere and running this vast empire and it's much more a series of smaller, very anarchic, dangerous, chaotic empires, that are, you know, that have been splintered and fractured and that unfortunately has created more violence and not less.

     

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    When it was revealed in 2015 that actresses Sarah Paulson and Holland Taylor were dating, the internet had a bit of a meltdown.

    Paulson is 43 and Taylor is 75, which means that the two have a not-insignificant 32 year age gap between the two of them.

    But this doesn't appear to make a difference in their relationship. In an interview with Modern Luxury magazine (with excerpts published by People), Paulson made sure to let the haters know that she hears them— and she doesn't really care what they have to say. 

    "If anyone wants to spend any time thinking I'm strange for loving the most spectacular person on the planet, then that's their problem," she said. "I'm doing just fine."

    But Paulson wasn't always so strong in her convictions. 

    Late last year, in an interview with The Edit, Paulson said some people told her to keep the relationship with Taylor private — and she almost listened to them.

    "It occurred to me, 'Should I not?' And then I thought, 'Why would I not?'" Paulson said. "The fact I'm having this thought is wrong. But I had a moment of societal concern; wondering if, maybe, people who didn't know that about me would be like, 'Wait, what?' But then, you know, I did it anyway."

    And the rest, as they say, is history. 

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    • President Donald Trump and Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell have forged an unlikely friendship ahead of the midterm elections this fall.
    • Several policy successes, including the Republican tax overhaul, have brought the two together since their past differences.

    While often appearing more like frenemies in the past, President Donald Trump and Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell have forged an unlikely friendship ahead of the midterm elections this fall, according to the Washington Post.

    Their closer relationship is a sharp departure from their public tension at the beginning of Trump's time in office, like when Trump tweeted that McConnell "failed" to repeal and replace the Affordable Care Act, commonly known as Obamacare.

    The two have moved away from their fraught relationship for a bigger cause: keeping control of the Senate through this fall's midterm elections.

    McConnell said Trump calls his cellphone "multiple times a week, and sometimes at unusual hours" to talk about the Senate situation and different races.

    Sources told the Post that one-on-one meetings and September talks about the Republican tax plan and its passing months later brought the two together for common missions.

    "Continuing to get the victories," White House legislative affairs director Marc Short told the Post, is "what’s essential to the relationship."

    A recent victory came after McConnell forecasted a dire outlook for the midterms earlier this spring and sought Trump's help to block a controversial candidate from securing West Virginia's Republican nomination for Senate.

    Yet sources told the Post certain issues could still damage their bond as the elections get closer, as the two still have differences in opinion. McConnell has opposed Trump's objections to the special counsel Robert Mueller's Russia investigation, which Trump commonly refers to as a "witch hunt".

    "The president is a surprise every minute," Sen. Lamar Alexander of Tennessee told the Post. "Mitch is a surprise about once every century."

    Sen. David Perdue of Georgia, one of Trump's closest allies in Congress, told the Post that the lack of funding for Trump's border wall or infrastructure overhaul are "friction points right now, as we speak, that's going to stress that relationship."

    As two of the most powerful Republicans, their relationship could make or break upcoming conservative policy moves.

    "We can hope and pray," Senate Majority Whip John Cornyn told the Post, "that it will stay strong."

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    • The House passed a bill to roll back a number of Wall Street regulations.
    • The bill will head to President Donald Trump to be signed into law.
    • The bill will lift regulations on community and regional banks, while preserving many rules established under the post-financial crisis Dodd-Frank Act.
    • Opponents say the bill would undermine protections for consumers and possibly risk another financial crisis.

    The House finalized the largest package of Wall Street banking reforms since the financial crisis on Tuesday, rolling back regulations on financial firms from community banks to credit reporting agencies.

    The legislation — most commonly referred to as the Crapo bill after its author, the Senate banking committee chair Mike Crapo — is the result of more than a year of negotiations among House Republicans, Senate Republicans, and a group of Senate Democrats that support the measure.

    It bill passed by a vote of 258 to 159, and will now head to President Donald Trump's desk for his signature.

    Proponents of the deregulation bill say the measure will free up regional banks to provide consumers access to credit and help boost the economy.

    Opponents, including many progressive Democrats, argue that the bill undermines crucial protections passed in the Dodd-Frank Act and could help lead to a repeat of the financial crisis.

    A deal between the House and Senate sealed the bill's passage

    The House passage comes after disagreement between conservative House members and a more moderate bipartisan group that helped pass the bill in the Senate.

    Rep. Jeb Hensarling, the chair of the House Financial Services committee, and other conservative-leaning House GOP members have long sought a more complete rollback of regulations for all types of financial institutions. But since the more modest bill advanced in the Senate with 17 Democratic votes, anything more extensive than the current bill was likely a non-starter.

    As a compromise, House Speaker Paul Ryan promised Hensarling votes on additional financial services reform bills — many of which are expected to go nowhere in the divided Senate.

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    Perhaps more intriguing was the number of Democrats who voted for the package. House Minority Leader Nancy Pelosi and Rep. Maxine Waters urged colleagues on the Democratic side to vote against the bill.

    "The American people paid a very high price for the weak oversight and discriminatory lending practices that culminated in the 2008 financial crisis," Pelosi and Waters wrote. "We must not allow the GOP Congress to drag us back to the same lack of oversight that ignited the Great Recession."

    Despite the opposition from leadership, more than 30 Democrats voted for the bill.

    What's in the bill

    Perhaps most significantly, the Crapo bill would increase the threshold for a bank to qualify as a Systemically Important Financial Institution, or SIFI:

    • SIFI banks are subject to increased regulation, including the need to undergo the Federal Reserve's stress tests that model the banks' ability to weather financial and economic downturns without causing a threat to the larger economy.
    • These regulations can make it harder for a bank to effectively lend and reduce profitability.
    • The Crapo bill would immediately increase the SIFI threshold to banks that hold over $100 billion in assets from the current $50 billion level. It would raise that threshold to $250 billion after 18 months.
    • This is significant for larger regional banks like SunTrust, BB&T, and Fifth Third Bank. In all, the number of institutions subject to the harsher rules would drop to 12 from 38.

    Such a move has long been sought by congressional Republicans, the Trump administration, and some Democrats. 

    Elizabeth WarrenBut critics say financial institutions that held less than $250 billion in assets presented a serious risk to the financial system during the previous crisis. Sen. Elizabeth Warren has pointed to Countrywide, which held $210 billion in assets when it ran into trouble and became the face of the subprime mortgage crisis, as an example.

    The bill also includes a series of other changes, which would:

    • Exempt banks with less than $10 billion in assets from the so-called Volcker rule. The rule, named after the former Fed chair Paul Volcker, prohibits depository institutions from engaging in proprietary trading and investing in certain hedge funds and private-equity firms — cutting down on the type of risky investments a bank can make.
    • Include carve-outs for smaller community banks with less than a certain amount in assets, relaxing rules on what types of real-estate loans the banks can make and how much capital they need on hand.
    • Force credit-reporting agencies like Equifax and TransUnion to give consumers free credit freezes, but also shield the agencies from certain class-action lawsuits and allow the firms to offer credit checks for mortgage applications.

    It's not a total rollback of Obama's Dodd-Frank regulations

    While Republicans have painted the bill as a dismantling of the Dodd-Frank Act, signed by President Barack Obama in the wake of the financial crisis, many analysts say that the bill is more of a retooling than a complete dismantling.

    Isaac Boltansky, a policy analyst at research and trading firm Compass Point, told Politico's Ben White in March that the bill is neither as big of a deal as supporters make it out to be or as bad as opponents think.

    "The proponents of this bill say that it's going to unleash a new wave of lending and economic growth," Boltansky said. "The opponents say that its going to produce some sort of Mad Max-like hell-scape of predatory misdeeds. Obviously the reality is far more nuanced."

    Jaret Seiberg, a financial services policy strategist at Cowen Washington Research Group, also noted that passage of the bill does not automatically lift all of the burdens on regional banks. Rather, the regulators will be steady in changing the rules for these institutions.

    "Our point is that while the cost and burden of the post-crisis regulatory response will be less for the regional banks, it is not disappearing," Seiberg wrote.

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    • The NFL owners are reportedly discussing different ways to address the ongoing protests during the national anthem that garnered so much attention throughout the 2017 season.
    • One proposed solution is to allow the home team to decide whether or not teams would come out of the locker room for the anthem, with 15-yard penalties given out to players who choose to kneel should the teams take the field.


    One of the defining stories of the 2017 NFL season was the conversation surrounding the national anthem.

    According to a report from Sports Illustrated's Albert Breer, NFL owners have been discussing how to handle players kneeling during the anthem heading into the new season, including one radical idea: assessing 15-yard penalties to players that knelt. Per Breer:

    "An idea being floated in the room goes like this: It would be up to the home team on whether both teams come out of the locker room for the anthem, and, should teams come out, 15-yard penalties could be assessed for kneeling."

    It's no surprise that the league would want to address the issue, as the NFL would much prefer to remain apolitical rather than go through the media firestorm that unfolded last season. That said, a 15-yard penalty seems like an odd way to avoid an issue on such matters.

    Colin Kaepernick garnered national attention for his protests two seasons ago, kneeling during the anthem to bring attention to issues including police brutality and racial inequality in the justice system. While Kaepernick was out of the league in 2017, protests of a similar nature became more common across the NFL, with players including Michael Bennett and Marshawn Lynch taking part.

    The storm around the league began after President Donald Trump suggested that players that kneel for the national anthem should be fired. Teams responded with shows of unity the next Sunday, with more players taking part in the protests than ever before.

    Since then, the issue hasn't resolved itself. There were meetings between owners and players that mostly revealed how far removed from the realities of the situation many owners were. Kaepernick has filed a collusion grievance against the league, arguing that it was his decision to kneel, rather than his talent level as a player, that kept him out of the league, and recent information suggests that multiple teams did, in fact, view him as a starting-caliber quarterback. 

    There's sure to be plenty to talk about as the NFL owners continue their spring meetings, including addressing the advent of legal sports betting and potential changes to kickoffs. But if the league hopes to avoid another year of headlines focused off the field, chances are a 15-yard flag for kneeling would only invite more controversy.

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